Family Mediation in Milton Keynes
Aspire Family Mediation
Midsummer Court,314 Midsummer Boulevard, Milton Keynes, MK9 2UB
Telephone: 01908 966008
Our office is perfect for anyone living in Stony Stratford, Woburn, Bletchley, Buckingham, Winslow, Towcester, Leighton Buzzard and Newport Pagnell.
When approaching mediation a concern is often that the situation of the divorced or separated couple is too complex to be addressed through the process. Issues around children, property and the rights of grandparents can seem to be too problematic to solve through simple negotiation. However, the beauty of mediation is its flexibility in dealing with a range of complex situations.
In terms of children, mediation keeps them involved in the process at every step. We discuss with parents whether it would be helpful for children to meet with a mediator before the process begins. If this is the case, then we will arrange for a meeting where we can answer any concerns that the children have. This can actually help children to feel empowered, and come to terms with the results of the decisions made by their parents or guardians.
Grandparents can also be informed and involved in the mediation process. Grandparents may be concerned that they will not see their grandchildren after a separation. Mediation can support both grandparents and grandchildren.
Mediation is suitable for a wide range of financial and property considerations. These may seem intractable at first, but a skilled mediator can help to unpick some of the key issues and help you to decide upon a sensible course of action. Mediation involves a full disclosure between parties of income and expenditure, as well as any assets or debts which may exist. This openness provides a setting where sensible decisions concerning the allocation of resources, such as the family home, can be made.
Where mediation can help
• Children. Mediation can help to keep children informed about the negotiations between parents or guardians. Mediation can also be used to determine issues such as access or custody.
• Grandparents. Mediation can involve grandparents in the process and can involve discussions concerning contact between grandparents and grandchildren.
• Property and finance. Mediation is an open and transparent method which allows both parties in a divorce or separation arrive at a negotiated solution.
Mediation: the sensible decision after divorce or separation.In the unfortunate situation of divorce or separation people often turn to solicitors in the first instance. However, what initially appears to be a quick solution can often turn into a series of unanticipated problems. Legal costs can be extremely high, and reduce the value of a divorce settlement once they are deducted. Using solicitors can also be a time consuming process. Some separated couples find that using solicitors can make the process more adversarial and cause unintended stress and worry for all parties, including children.As a first step in divorce and separation, it is beneficial to consider mediation.
Even if you are considering instructing solicitors, mediation is often a necessary pre-requisite. A mediator is a trained professional who can negotiate with both parties, and with children and other members of the family if required, to reach an amicable solution between you and your partner on financial, and other, matters. Mediation will involve an initial meeting with each party to make sure that it is a suitable route to follow. If this is the case then the mediator will arrange a series of sessions which are designed to help you to discuss issues such as finance and child custody. The sessions are constructed around your needs and requirements. At the end of mediation it is expected that you will be able to reach a mutually agreed solution to these issues. However, you can decide to withdraw from mediation at any time.
Even if you are thinking of applying to court for divorce or separation issues that involve children or financial matters MIAMS (Mediation Information and Assessment meetings) are now a formal requirement. If mediation is not suitable for any reason then we can help you to complete the FM1 form which is required for an application to court. However, this is only valid in very specific circumstances and you should always contact us first to consider mediation as an option.
The benefits of family mediation in Milton Keynes –
- Confidentiality. Mediation is a confidential service where discussions remain private between the mediator and the partners concerned.
- Professionalism. Mediation is a professional service where the mediator conducts the discussions in a professional manner. Mediators are used to dealing with a range of difficult problems, and family situations, and you can trust the mediator to handle your information in a sensitive way.
- Impartial. The mediator does not take sides in the mediation. The job of the mediator is not to determine who is wrong or right in a particular situation, but to arrive at a decision that you mutually agree upon.
- Non-judgemental. Aspire mediators conduct the mediation procedure in a non-judgemental fashion. There is no judgement by the mediator as to the behaviour of either party. Rather the emphasis is to move to a negotiated settlement.
- Control. When solicitors are engaged, you can find that you lose autonomy. The benefit of using a mediator is that you regain control of decision making and reach a decision where both parties achieve satisfaction.
- Voluntary. Neither party is compelled to undertake mediation. The process is purely voluntary and either party can decide to withdraw from mediation at any point.
- An alternative to the legal route. Mediation is increasingly being seen as an alternative to solicitors and as a necessary procedure that should be followed in a divorce or separation.
- Cost. Mediation is much cheaper that a legal solution and can save on time, as well as cost.